The first thing you need to do is get in touch with the Rector, Rev’d Lynsay. Once you’ve made contact, you’ll be able to have a conversation about what kind of wedding you are looking for and also about the local booking arrangements. If you can, try not to book a wedding reception venue until you know whether the church you want to get married in, or the priest you want to take the service at your chosen venue, is available.
People sometimes ask whether they can get married in church if they have been married before. The short answer is that a proportion of the people who get married in the Scottish Episcopal Church have been married before. As clergy we are able to marry couples where one or both have been married before provided the bishop consents. Rev’d Lynsay will be very happy to speak to you about this.
Weddings in the Scottish Episcopal Church tend not to be just done off the peg but are tailored to the couple who are getting married. For example, if the couple are parents, there may well be creative ways of involving the children on the big day. The couple themselves should expect to have a significant involvement in planning the service, including choosing which prayers, readings and vows are used.
The service itself will be put together by the couple, in consultation with Rev’d Lynsay or Rev’d Neville using resources from the Scottish Episcopal Church’s marriage rite.
No-one can get married in Scotland without dealing with the local Registrar. On the day of the wedding a couple need to produce a Marriage Schedule from the Registrar Service which is run by the local council. Notice must be given to the registrar at least 28 days before the marriage in order for the Schedule to be issued. During the course of the service, the schedule is completed by the person conducting the wedding and this then needs to be returned to the Registrar’s Office within three days. Our local registrar is based in Dalkeith.
At St JtL, we invite everyone to discover God’s love through our worship and community life. This means that we try to be an inclusive congregation, to offer pastoral care and support to all, and to respond to everyone who asks us for prayer.
In December 2014 the Law in Scotland changed to enable same-sex couples to enter into marriage on an equal basis with others. We warmly congratulate all those who have been married or are preparing to be married as a result of this change. We are sorry that the marriage service is not yet available to you in the Scottish Episcopal Church, while the Church is actively engaged in the process of deciding if it will enable this to happen.